Lindsay & Melissa | Pittsburgh, PA
Photos by: George Street Photography - Jared | Crowne Plaza Hotel & Suites Pittsburgh South
How We Met
We met a few times very briefly in late 2012/early 2013 through mutual friends but the timing wasn't right. It wasn't until March of 2013 on the day of the St. Patty's Day parade where we actually spoke and Melissa asked Lindsay out to dinner. Even though Lindsay was reluctant at first, she accepted. Can't pass up free food!
Tell Us About The Proposal
The proposal happened on Dec. 10th 2015. It was a Thursday evening after we had both gotten home from work. We decided we were going to go to dinner at our favorite restaurant so Melissa jumped in the shower. While Melissa was in the shower Lindsay was in the bathroom writing "Marry me" on the steamy mirror waiting for Melissa to come out.
When Melissa got out she was surprised to see Lindsay down on one knee - "I was happy she asked me that way because I was totally caught off guard, if we would have went to a fancy dinner I would have been expecting it." It was in that moment Lindsay told Melissa that she was her favorite pain in the ass and asked her to be her wife. Luckily, Melissa said yes, or else dinner would have been really awkward that night. Lindsay may deny crying during the proposal, maybe it was the mist from the shower but Melissa swears she saw tears. Lindsay claims the tears were from being down on her bad knee that she injured in high school.
Tell us about your wedding party
Our wedding party consisted of our best friends and our siblings. Melissa's sister, Nicole, was the matron of honor and her best friend, Samantha, was the maid of honor. Lindsay's party wasn't as traditional for a bride. Her brother, Steven, was her best man and her best friend, Preston, was a bridesman. Lindsay also like to refer to them as Broomsmen since she was the "Broom" :)
Tell us about the wedding
After the rehearsal dinner the night before, we went our separate ways because we didn’t want to see each other the day of until we were at the altar. No first look. No peaking. We really had no idea what one another’s dress or anything looked like. We wanted the surprise. Melissa stayed at the hotel with her mother and sister and I stayed at our house with my bridesman. The day of, Lindsay had to gather all her things, including the dogs and make her way over to the hotel after her, and the boys got breakfast at Starbucks.
It was a little hectic having to worry about not forgetting anything plus make sure the dogs had all their things as well since they were a part of our day as well. Shortly after Lindsay got to the hotel, her brother and his fiancé Merry showed up as well as Ramon who was there to do her hair. So naturally, we got the mimosa’s flowing and Ramon got to work. While Lindsay was getting her hair done, Melissa was upstairs with her mom, bridesmaids and few cousins who could not wait for the ceremony to begin, nervously drinking mimosas. Mailinn also brought in food for the entire bridal party and Sammie (MOH) handmade chocolate covered strawberries.
Throughout the day Lindsay did a lot of pacing back and forth just waiting for 4:00 to come by. Like Melissa, Lindsay was also very nervous and couldn't eat much but figured it was a good idea to choke down a Belvita cookie with her mimosa's to avoid being sick later in the night. By 3:30 hair and make-up were done and it was time to hop into the dress. Lindsay had her two aunts there to help her get into it. It took an entire search party to find the clasp on the back of her dress. By then, her party was in the neighboring room putting on their boutonnieres and waiting to head down. Melissa’s mom and sister helped her put on her dress – “I feel like most of the morning was dragging on and then all of a sudden it was 4 o’clock and I had to rush to get down to the ceremony” – Melissa. Then it was time.
The “Bridesmen” and Lindsay’s dad and aunts were ready to head down. Kelli and her team did a great job of making sure we didn't see each other. We had no clue where to other one was before we walked into the ceremony. It actually was a lot of fun to have that mystery. Preston escorted the aunts down the aisle followed by Steve (Lindsay’s brother) escorting Melissa’s mom and Lindsay’s Step-mom. To Lindsay the ceremony was a blur but at the same time couldn’t be over soon enough (I hated standing up there with everyone looking at me!).
Once the ceremony ended we had snacks in our suite and took pictures with the party and family. And then the party started! We didn’t even eat our dinner we were so excited to walk around and see all of our friends and family who were there to share our day with us. The rest of the night was filled with nothing but drinking and dancing! The dogs even made it down to the party for an appearance. We were lucky enough that the party didn’t end after the wedding was over. The brides and a big group of family and friends went over to the hotel bar to keep it going until last call. People were ordering shots and pizza’s for the entire bar. The whole day was incredible. It was such a mix of emotions going from nervous as hell to elated not being able to remove the smile from our faces.
We tried to follow a lot of traditions that one would consider "historically traditional." We both had something old, something borrowed, something new and something blue. Each of us had a member of our party take our wedding day gifts to one another. We also did the dollar dance which is a tradition in Melissa's family. We both did our separate father daughter dances. There was no throwing of the bouquets, no first look. We also had a memory table with pictures of our lost loved ones whom we wish were there to share our day. We did the typical first dance but had Lindsay's brothers fiance sing Etta James' At Last. The ceremony was actually non-traditional. We had a friend ask us if she could "marry us" and we thought it was a great idea. Karen sent us separate emails with questions and put together the ceremony based on that. We actually received a lot of positive feedback for the ceremony, it basically told our love story - I don't think there was a dry eye in the place.
What were the most memorable moments of the wedding?
For Lindsay: Scariest moment: walking down the aisle having everyone staring at her. Touching: seeing that Melissa put a picture of her mom (who had passed away) in her bouquet without her knowing. Funniest: My brothers speech when he said "Those of you who knew Lindsay before Melissa knew she was pretty terrible. (Pause) She still is but not as bad now that Melissa is around." The whole day was just the best. It was by far my favorite day.
For Melissa: (funniest) The speeches were funny, they were a nice mix of love and jokes. Also hiding in the kitchen so Lindsay wouldn't see me! (Scariest) walking down the aisle and the ceremony once that was over I was ready to party. (Most surprising) Honestly everyone telling us how wonderful the ceremony was and how different from any other wedding. (Joyous) being around family and friends on the dance floor. The majority of my family lives out of town and almost ALL of them came to celebrate with us. It was perfect.
Your wedding was just after the federal ruling. How was the vendor selection process?
If there were one thing that you could do differently, what would it be?
Are you hyphenating names?
Melissa decided to take Lindsay's last name but also kept Finley. I wanted us to have the same last name so if/when we have children they will be Waltl's too!
Mrs. & Mrs. Waltl
Congratulations Mrs. & Mrs. Waltl!
Tell us about your honeymoon
We have not gone on our honeymoon yet. But we're looking for a nice beach with plenty adventures.
Karen - (A friend)
Cake Pops by Melissa's Mom
Crowne Plaza Pittsburgh South
Crowne Plaza Pittsburgh South
Kelli Gorecki from the Crowne Plaza
White, sweetheart from David's Bridal
Champagne, lace dress from David's Bridal
Jared with George Street Photography
Crowne Plaza Pittsburgh South
Jay Kline Entertainment
Pete Donati & Sons
Hair & Makeup
Dessa Marie Artistry
Crowne Plaza Pittsburgh South
"For the past 7 years, I have been lucky enough to direct weddings at the Crowne Plaza Hotel & Suites Pittsburgh South. While I have planned and coordinated with hundreds of couples to help make their day as special as it could be, one of the most momentous days in my career was when I witnessed the love of Melissa and Lindsay on their wedding day. It was a beautiful day, for two beautiful ladies, and I’m so glad I was able to be a small part of it, even for just a moment. I’ll forever cherish their friendship." - Kelli Gorecki, Wedding Specialist
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