My Grandfather has not accepted my being Gay, he loves me and I adore him but he refused to acknowledge my Partner or our wedding. I want him to be there but I’m worried he will make a scene or not come.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this during your wedding planning. It is not what I would wish for you and your partner. That said, you can't take on the responsibility of changing your Grandfather's biases.
All you can do is tell him how you feel, that you love him, and want him at your wedding. Tell him the truth about your fears and ask him if he can put aside his pain for one day so he can see how happy you are and share in your joy.
If he can't, you have to accept it. You want him to accept you which means you have to accept him even though it may hurt. Have faith in love. If you speak with respect and an open heart, his heart will hear you.
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