Best Gay Wedding Ideas to Make Your Ceremony Stand Out By: Shannon Lochwood
Now that all fifty states are legally recognizing gay and lesbian weddings, those who want to take their relationship to the next level are busy planning. While LGBT wedding ceremonies will still have many of the same inherent challenges as heterosexual weddings—including budgetary constraints, choice in venue, and guest lists, there are many unique ways to make your special day stand out as all your own. Here are some of our best LGBT wedding ideas on how to make your special day a memorable occasion and true representation of the love you share with your partner.
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Logistics - Don’t Get Hung Up on Tradition When it comes to planning a same-sex wedding ceremony there are no pre-defined rules as there are for heterosexual weddings. Many of today’s wedding traditions surround heteronormative practices include wearing garters, dictate which parent pays for the wedding, which parent walks the bride or groom down the aisle, and throwing a bouquet, to name a few. However, when it comes to planning a LGBT wedding, do not get hung up on any of these typical practices. As a couple you can make up your own rules for your wedding day as you go along. For instance, you can change traditions or you can scrap them altogether if they do not fit in line with your vision for your wedding day ceremony.
Mak Rabbit Photography
Decorating with Florals When it Comes to decorations, florals, and arrangements like centerpieces, the sky's the limit when it comes to your wedding day. Gay couples can distinguish their ceremonies by choosing floral arrangements that signify the union of the couple in a very meaningful way. For instance, some helpful floral do’s and don’ts include the following: Do choose florals in colors that are the best match for the overall wedding plan and based upon the couple’s personal preferences.
Do place florals decoratively, taking into account the overall venue space and layout for the event.
Don’t use florals traditionally if you don’t want to. For instance, with there being two grooms or two brides there does not have to be a bouquet toss unless you choose to do so. This will ensure a fully inclusive occasion that takes the needs of both partners into account.
Carla Ten Eyck Photography
Lin & Jirsa
Carla Ten Eyck Photography
Liv Lyszyk Photography
Michael Justin Studios
Lin and Jirsa
All in All, Remember to Have Fun with It Planning any wedding can be stressful and hectic. The dynamics of planning a gay and lesbian wedding can be even more challenging given there are no set rules as to how the wedding ceremony should flow. But no matter the logistics, remember to have fun planning this very special occasion. The best ceremonies are the ones that encapsulate your relationship as a couple. Invite supportive friends and family who will celebrate the love and positivity of your union. Also choose the best vendors, planners, caterers, bakers and florists that will translate the vision of your wedding into a beautiful reality. Your wedding to your spouse is a day to remember and it should be one filled with fun, joy, and love as you celebrate your happy union.
Couples can jumpstart their wedding planning efforts today by keeping some of these helpful tips in mind. While there are some traditions that have been relied upon for centuries in heterosexual weddings, this does not mean gay and lesbian couples have to follow these same rules. Instead, plan your wedding day on their own terms for the most amazing, memory-filled day ever.
Shannon Lochwood currently lives in Southern California. She has a passion for weddings and loves to write about anything related to special "I do" moments. In her free time she loves to hike and spend time with her family and her two lovely dogs.